My mother was a prolific gardener. Prolific seems an understatement, in fact, as the size of the lawn decreased as the garden grew! My mom drew her strength from the earth; I don’t think she was ever more content than when she had her hands buried in dirt. She loved the beauty of plants whether exotic or simple. In Mom’s later years, my sister and I would offer to do some weeding and we would work to thin the garden of a persistent tiny blue flower that was gradually taking over the place. Mom was ready to kill us for how many of those we would pull out when she looked the other way. Despite our efforts, this nameless blue flower continued to proudly display its pert, pale blue self throughout her garden, thriving in the face of the annual adversity of being yanked at the roots.
Thriving in the face of adversity.
Where, in our own lives, do we face adversity? How do we carry ourselves through it: head down, beating ourselves up or feeling defensive and resentful? Or head up and face open, sure of our intrinsic worthiness, knowing our gifts to the world, even if the world doesn’t necessarily recognize them?
Different conditions each year result in shifts to which perennials blossom and which will wither away. Plants that thrived in a sunny back yard no longer grow as the shade from trees increases. To have an abundant garden, we need to assess conditions, fertilize as needed and be willing to make substitutions to adapt to shifting conditions and adversity.
Where, in our own lives, do we face changing conditions? How do we carry ourselves through it: by stubbornly doing things exactly as we have, beating ourselves up or feeling defensive and resentful? Or do we adapt to changing conditions, aware of our versatility and intrinsic worthiness, knowing we have the ability to make changes so that we can bloom again? For those who know how to look and wait, the garden teems with other such life lessons. Turn your awareness to the wise teachings of your garden. If you don’t have a conventional garden, a container garden on your porch or potted plants in your home still offer valuable lessons. Here are a few:
It’s OK to be imperfect. Trying to grow the perfect rose, or the perfect cabbage, is an exhausting, never-ending quest for flawlessness. “Imperfect” roses are still beautiful and “imperfect” cabbages still burst with flavor, just like we humans. With our myriad imperfections, we still contribute our own beauty and zest to the world.
Pruning improves growth. Removing old habits that don’t serve us opens new possibilities for growth in areas that do serve us.
Pay more attention to your health than your appearance. As author William Longgood wrote, “Over fertilized plants may be beautiful but are otherwise useless, like people whose energies are devoted so completely to their appearance that there is no other development.”
Regular maintenance is important. Isn’t it so much harder to clear an overgrown jungle of a garden than to regularly pull encroaching weeds? Think of the clutter that can accumulate in our offices and our homes, the extra pounds that are harder to lose than to keep off in the first place, the sense of being overwhelmed or even the illness that can result from too little self-care.
Have faith. Plant a seed, water it, and trust that it will grow. Similarly, believe that the shifts you make in your life, the dreams you hold dear, will fully blossom if you nourish and protect them.
Don’t be afraid to try new approaches. The garden is an incredible laboratory for experimentation. What new approaches do those old problems in your professional or personal life need? Trial and error is one of life’s best teachers. Not trying is the domain of hopelessness.
Take care with predators. It doesn’t take long for predators to damage the result of your careful cultivation, in the garden and in life. What toxic relationships, substances and emotions are feeding on your energy and taking away from what you have to give to others? Eliminate them.
Transform your trash. The compost heap turns rotting plant waste into a treasure pile of rich, organic fertilizer. What adversity in your life can you work to transform? When we do the hard work of breaking these negative patterns down, the results are often rich and beneficial to our lives.
Everyone is unique and needed. Everything in nature has a function that is interdependent. As famous naturalist John Muir said, “When one tugs at a single thing in nature, he finds it attached to the rest of the world.” Rock, plant, bird, bee—even bacteria in the soil—all occupy a vital place in life. What are your strengths? Do you have a sense of the gifts that you bring to the world? Who do you depend on; who depends on you?
Something important happens every day. Take the time to notice the little everyday miracles in your garden and in your life.
If you could use some support in applying these lessons, don’t hesitate to email me for a complimentary consultation. Even if you’re a talented gardener, sometimes a bit of assistance in assessing, planning and maintaining the garden is in order!